From my recent colored pencil artwork entitled "Tigray." |
I'll admit, I often think the worst of people. It's the Calvinist in me. Total depravity: we are born slaves to sin and death. Against that, there are multiple passages in the New Testament, ones that I can't lay my finger on at the moment, that say we should assume the best in people. In fact there is no reason that both of these things can't be true. We can admit that humans are born slaves of sin, but we can still choose to see the image of G-d in them when we see them, and also not assume their failure before they have committed it.
I have gotten a couple lessons in recent past weeks about not thinking the worst of people. First off was the election. I was almost certain that the morally decrepit American people that has murdered 65 million babies would elect to continue the current regime, or that the regime would find a way to win by hook or crook. Well I was wrong, Americans were better than that, and the minions of the regime appear to have been totally blindsided by the magnitude of the landslide that confronted them. We have found out that the regime has feet of clay and ideological blinders on just like everyone else, and perhaps more so in that they could not bring themselves to believe the truth in this matter (that they were losing badly) like in so many other matters. The American people were better than I thought they were.
Now, the 65 million babies are still dead, but the US has a population of 335 million so really there are still a whole lot of people who have never been implicated in that sin. Not to mention that many of the abortion prone have had multiple abortions, so again the average American is not as bad a person as I assumed.
Which, being pleasantly surprised is always nice, but with it comes the realization that you were maligning people falsely in your heart, which is not nice.
In another situation in my personal life, I felt that certain people had failed to fulfill their part of a bargain. We had a deal, the other person didn't fulfill their part. It was really a minor matter, but that doesn't mean I was not feeling testy about it. Well in the end, belatedly, they more than fulfilled their obligations. In fact I would up being very pleased with the way they had held up their end of the bargain, albeit two weeks later than they should have. And this person had had significant personal emergencies that explained why they were late. So really, I was being the bad guy to think ill of them when they had good reasons.
Which is another reason why not to think the worst of people: so that it doesn't wind up that you're really being the heel, not them. ;) Even if in six out of ten cases the person you think is being slackward really is, what about the 4 others? You have wronged them in your heart, even if you never say a cross word to them. Don't do that.
And that is a reason for avoiding the cross words part. Again, so that it doesn't wind up that you are in fact the heel. I had mild and indirect cross words for this person, but I still had them, and my goodness they were sick and couldn't help being late.
All of which leads up to the New Testament message that it is better to be transgressed against that to transgress. If you are transgressed against, that is no blemish on your soul. You are innocent. If you transgress, it IS a blemish on your soul. I really need to take in this message much more seriously than I have been in the past. I can be a pretty testy guy sometimes; I can be quick to condemn, quick to put up the verbal dukes, but condemnation is not at all my rightful business in life. Christians should aim to eschew it. That doesn't at all mean that we don't call sin, sin, in the manner of the derelict progressive churches who hold up a Bible with one hand and preach abortion and homosexuality with the other. We can absolutely condemn ideas and practices, but we should stay out of the business of condemning PERSONS. It's not our business in life to do that.
Think the best of people if you can. If you are wrong, you have not sinned. If you are right, you have prevented yourself from sinning.